{A guest post by Elizabeth of The Country Handmaiden}
It's that time of year again. I don't need to tell you about all of the mushy cards, the boxes of chocolate, the pink and red decorations, and the hand-in-hand couples we see everywhere around town because I'm sure you are already observing them for yourself and thinking "I really can not wait for Valentines Day to be over." What used to be a day when Daddy would bring you home a bouquet of roses with a special kiss for his little girl, now leaves you feeling a bit empty inside. Of course you still love Daddy but you're a woman now, and you want someone of your own, someone who wants to be with you for the rest of his life. But where is he?
I don't know about you, but sometimes I look around and get a bit discouraged by what my prospects of a husband are. If you are in this boat, don't panic or worry. If you feel called to the married life, then God most certainly has someone out there for you, He just hasn't introduced you to him yet, and He has the perfect reasons why He has not done so. However, just because you haven't met Prince Charming yet, doesn't mean you need to frown upon Valentine's Day.
Focus on praying for your future someone instead of moping about what's taking him so long. Chase those thoughts away with the one thing that is most productive; prayer. It will help him the most and connects the two of you in a spiritual way before you have even met in person. Be specific in what you are praying for as well, for example some of your intentions could be: that he may advance in his relationship with God, that he has success in his schooling/career, that he may resist temptations against purity, etc.
Praying for your future spouse will make you feel peaceful in that you are helping him in the best way that you can for the present. He is going to have to come up with some type of career to provide for the family one day and that takes time and effort and study, all of which are not easy and can be overwhelming. You can begin your role as a supportive wife right now by backing him in his endeavors with your loving prayers.
So lets not look at Valentine's Day as our anniversary of being single, but as an opportunity to remember what we are striving for. We are helping our future spouses by praying for them, wherever they are, whatever they are doing. If you think about it, chances are he is spending his Valentine's Day alone too. And if you think about it even more, he most likely has you on his mind. So you are really not alone, because besides Our Lord, who knows all the desires of your heart, there is someone out there longing for you just as much as you are for him.
About Elizabeth:
Elizabeth is a stay at home daughter living in rural Ohio. She strives to follow the Lord in His amazing plan for her, and enjoys learning traditional homemaking skills in hopes of being a wife and mother one day. In her spare time you will most likely find her reading a novel, sitting at the spinning wheel, watching Lord of the Rings, reenacting in both Civil War and Victorian era, blogging, or sipping a porcelain cup of Irish Breakfast tea. People often tell her she reminds them of Margaret Hale, Beatrix Potter, and Sybil Grantham, and her mother is forever calling her Anne Shirley. :)
Beautiful! I've always been told to pray for my future husband, but I've never really thought about it in such depth. The very idea that I can start being a supportive "wife" NOW even though I don't even know him yet spoke volumes to me. And how beautiful is that? A woman praying for her prince charming from before they even met all the way to her last days. What an awesome thought!
ReplyDeleteIt is great to be thinking about future husbands, but knowing that their life and yours is in God's hands:)
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Thank you for such thought-provoking post, Elizabeth! My parents have asked me to pray for my future spouse, and although it's sometimes a struggle to know just what to say, it's encouraging to know that other girls are praying with me! I find it wonderful to note that praying for your future husband is a good step yourself in keeping pure; with your mind filled with prayers for him, temptation is easier to resist.
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